Three important perspectives for new moms. I am in the middle of baby-shower planning for a couple of friends of mine who are pregnant with their first babies. Meanwhile, my firstborn child turned 20 last week. Yes, TWENTY. I know. Which people typically find hard to believe. Throughout his entire life, when we were out together and someone would find out he was my son, they would say that I did not look old enough to have a kid "that age." To which I always replied, "I'm